A Celebration of Life

Funeral Celebrant | Scotland | Edinburgh | Stirling

Funeral Ceremonies

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Losing someone you love is hard. Saying goodbye to them can be even harder. This is why it is so important that your final goodbye is carried out exactly the way you want it to be. You may want the service to be non-religious, meaning completely free of any religious content, or you might want to sing favourite hymns and/or have a reading from the bible. You might want to include family members in the service, and I welcome and encourage this. You may even want to have special items on display such as medals, trophies or photographs. You might want me to dress in black, or you may want me to wear a Batman t-shirt. It's completely up to you.

As an Independent Funeral Celebrant, I work closely with the family to create a service that is unique, personal and memorable. Sometimes I am introduced to the family by a Funeral Director , whilst other times I am approached directly by the family. But however an introduction is made, I work alongside the family to ensure the service is delivered exactly to their wishes.

Following the introduction, there will be a meeting arranged with the family, at a time and place to suit. This initial meeting can last anything up to 2 hours, and during this time I will collect lots of information to create a life story... memories, stories, anecdotes, hobbies. These will allow me to prepare a tribute that will capture the true essence of your loved one.

Once I have written the tribute, I will email a copy to the family for final approval, and edit it according to your feedback. Between our meeting and the day of the funeral, I will be available by telephone and/or email to answer and questions you may have. Following the service, you will receive a bound copy of the tribute.

I offer several options for a funeral service:
Service at Crematorium followed by Cremation
Service at Crematorium followed by Burial
Service at Cemetery Chapel followed by Burial
Graveside only Service
Service at Other Location followed by Committal at Crematorium or Graveside
Service at Other Location followed by Cremation

Funeral Ceremonies - from £170

Please contact me on any of the options below if you would like more information:
01786 850662 (office)
07845 053509 (mobile)
07800 950647 (alternative mobile)
email: lindy@ayedoceremonies.co.uk
or click here to contact me via the website

 

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Scattering of Ashes Ceremony

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An interment or scattering of ashes ceremony is a meaningful way of laying your loved one to rest. It is a time to remember, honour and celebrate all the things that made that person so special to you and those around you. The service usually takes place on a date after the funeral and is generally shorter than the funeral service itself .

Although this is a sad time, we can create a service together which reflects your loved one's life and personality. Family members and/or friends may also wish to contribute in some way with a reading or poem and this would be included in the service. In the UK, the scattering of ashes is fairly unrestricted, so the ceremony can take place almost anywhere, and at any time you choose. It is quite common to have a service scattering the ashes of the deceased in a spot he/she loved.

Your Funeral Director can take care of the arrangements, or you contact me directly.

Scattering of Ashes Ceremonies - £100

Please contact me on any of the options below if you would like more information:
01786 850662 (office)
07845 053509 (mobile)
07800 950647 (alternative mobile)
email: lindy@ayedoceremonies.co.uk
or click here to contact me via the website

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Memorial Service

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A memorial ceremony usually takes place sometime after the funeral, often a few weeks and many people today, choose to have both a funeral and a memorial service.

Memorial ceremonies do not have the same constraints as a crematorium or graveyard and so they can often be more relaxed. In fact, memorial ceremonies are often more celebratory in tone.

Sometimes families will choose to have a small, private funeral with only immediate family members present followed by a memorial ceremony, which is open to the wider family and friends.

I can help you to create a personal and memorable memorial service that will capture the unique personality and spirit of your loved one. Memorial ceremonies can be held almost anywhere... at home, in a park, a favourite spot, or even in the pub. It's completely up to you.

Memorial Service - £150

Please contact me on any of the options below if you would like more information:

01786 850662 (office)
07845 053509 (mobile)
07800 950647 (alternative mobile)
email: lindy@ayedoceremonies.co.uk
or click here to contact me via the website

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Pet Tributes

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Some years ago when my daughter was around 8 or 9 (she's 26 now), her precious pet guinea pig, "Cookie" died. Cookie had lived in a cage decorated with pink ribbons, glitter bows, my little pony stickers and groovy chick furniture, in Becky's bedroom for around 3 years and Becky was distraught by her death (we didn't know if it was a boy or a girl but she decided it was a girl because "boys are smelly").

I hadn't quite realised how upset she would be, and so I was at a bit of a loss as how to deal with this sudden death in the family. So, we had a little goodbye ceremony... nothing special, but we decorated a cardboard box with tissue paper and put in little notes and treats, and then we laid her to rest in a sunny part of the garden, during which I gave a little speech. Who knew 20 years later I would be doing this for a living!

And I also wrote a letter... to Becky from Cookie...

In it, Cookie told Becky how happy she was to have her as a best friend. She told Becky that when she (Becky) had come into the pet shop, Cookie spotted her straight away and just knew that she and Becky were meant to be together, and so when Becky had bent down to look in the cage, Cookie did a funny dance so that Becky would notice her. She spoke of some of the fun times they'd had together and described how she would lie in her cage giggling when Becky and Laura-Jane (BFF), did funny dances around the room. And she said that when they made up songs and sang them out loud, pretending their hairbrushes were microphones, Cookie would giggle until her tummy hurt. Seemingly, there were a few secrets in the letter that Becky couldn't share with me, but Cookie did share the biggest secret of all.... late at night, while everyone was sleeping, Cookie and Gizmo (Becky's brother's guinea pig who lived in his room next door), would whisper to each other, and had become boyfriend and girlfriend! Cookie then asked Becky not to cry too much, because the truth was she had become old and had been in pain for a long time, but now she could be at peace. Cookie closed the letter by saying that she was so happy that she got to spend her life with Becky, and asked Becky if that night after everyone was sleeping, if she would tiptoe into Ryan's room and tell Gizmo that she loved him.

Becky still has Cookie's letter to this day and says it is one of her most treasured possessions.

We should never underestimate the depth of feeling someone has towards a pet, however small, however young or however long it lives on this earth. Having a tribute ceremony for a beloved pet can not only bring some measure of peace, it can also be a really beautiful way to say goodbye.

Afternote:
My plan had been that Becky would go to her room after school, where she would find the letter on her pillow and it might bring her some level of comfort. Instead, she brought home 6 friends, opened the note and read it aloud to everyone in the room. Can you imagine seven 8-year-old girls in full grief mode? I hadn't heard that much screaming since my teenage friends and I went to the cinema to see 'Friday 13th'. But as I stood there listening to their caterwauling, I'm sure I could hear a teensy weensy giggle in the distance

Pet Tributes - £150

Please contact me on any of the options below if you would like more information:
01786 850662 (office)
07845 053509 (mobile)
07800 950647 (alternative mobile)
email: lindy@ayedoceremonies.co.uk
or click here to contact me via the website