… leading to your guests thinking “what next?! Is she going to pull a rabbit out a hat?!” 
Just remember, your ceremony is a story… not a shopping list of rituals. Choose ones that reflect your roots, your love, and your values, and the experience will be unforgettable.
When Zara and Matt asked me to lead their ceremony at Alexander House, Perthshire, I knew we were in for something a wee bit special! What came together was a perfect mix of fun, surprises, love and magic.
Setting the Scene
Alexander House was everything you’d want for a ceremony that blends elegance with personality. Imagine grand rooms, historic character, a very scary corridors and that Scottish ambiance you can almost taste. It felt like the perfect stage for a story …. and aye, we leaned fully into that idea! From the moment guests arrived, there was a playful buzz in the air. They didn’t know exactly how the ceremony would unfold … only that this wouldn’t be a run-of-the-mill “walk doon the aisle, say a few words, kiss, applause” kind of affair!
True Crime Style (Yes, Really)
Here’s where it got fun. Matt & Zara decided they wanted the ceremony delivered like a true crime podcast! We opened with suspense, music underscoring the mood, and narration that framed the union almost like a mystery to be solved. We also snuck in a few clues to help them with a game they’d be playing during the reception! It was weird, it was whacky and I loved it!
Vows: Ping Pong & Private Promises
For the vows, we did something I adore: ping pong vows in public, back and forth, playful banter, guests delighting in the rhythm and spontaneity. But before the ceremony, Matt & Zara had … in a private moment, exchanged deeply personal vows to each other. Awwwww! That balance … public fun + private depth is exactly what makes a ceremony sing.
The Hidden Rings
Rituals, secrets, suspense … we kept going. The rings? Hidden under seats. One of the guests (a wee girl with impeccable timing) found them and brought them forward. The delight on her face, and the look on Zara & Matt’s faces when she presented them … priceless. It was a perfect, whimsical moment. It felt meaningful rather than gimmicky … because it was rooted in intention and playful love.
The Quaich Moment
One of my favourite parts: sharing a dram from the quaich. Zara and Matt shared a dram, then invited all their guests to do the same …. each guest had their own mini quaich, and so that moment of shared sipping became more than tradition; it became a communal ritual, linking everyone in that room in a little circle of connection and celebration.
Why It Worked
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Authenticity: Zara & Matt leaned into what felt them. They trusted a weird idea … and we shaped it together.
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Narrative structure: Framing the ceremony as a story (with suspense, reveals, ritual) gave a flow that kept people engaged.
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Rituals with intention: The quaich, the ring hunt … all were more than “cute moments.” Each had meaning.
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Balance: We navigated between levity and depth. The public ritual and private vow exchange complemented each other.
What I Took Away
This is the kind of ceremony I live for. When couples are bold, playful, willing to take risks, trusted me to experiment … that’s when magic happens! Zara & Matt, thank you for letting me be your guide through this theatrical, heartfelt, quirky journey. I’m still smiling thinking of the music, the suspense, the cheers, the whispers.
If any other couples out there are curious: yes, we can do things differently. Yes, your ceremony can surprise you. And yes … it can be a story worth telling and retelling.
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Saturday took me to the stunning Cardney Steading for the wedding of Jamie & Ailie … and what a day it was!
It was one of those perfect Scottish days, blue skies, sunshine, and just enough breeze to keep the kilts twirling. I’d left super early (as always … my nightmare is being late!) and thank goodness I did, because there was an accident en route which held me up for an hour! But I arrived with time to spare, and heart rate only slightly elevated!
From the moment I stepped into the venue, the vibe was relaxed, joyful, and full of love. Ailie looked absolutely gorgeous, and the bridesmaids’ dresses were to die for. Jamie, however was a tad nervous and when Ailie took his hands during the ceremony, she couldn’t help but shout, “Your hands are so sweaty!” … a moment of genuine humour that had everyone in fits.
Then just as we were building to a poignant moment in the ceremony, the father of the bride’s phone went off! He was mortified, but again, it only added to the easy-going, joyful energy in the room. These are the stories that will be told for years to come!
Their handfasting ceremony was beautiful … a symbolic binding of their hands and lives, with cords chosen specially to reflect their journey together. Then came a truly special touch: they had a quaich ceremony, but instead of the traditional whisky, they filled the cup with firewater! Bold move, and very on brand for this fun-loving couple. Even better, all their guests had a quaich so everybody could take part in the blessing.
After the ceremony, the laughter continued as the whole wedding party made their way down to the loch for photos. I could see the love, joy, and energy ripple through the crowd like sunshine on the water.
Jamie & Ailie … thank you for trusting me with your ceremony. It was such a joy to be part of your day, and I know your marriage will be full of laughter, adventure… and the occasional spontaneous sip of firewater!
Until the next beautiful day
Lindy x
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On a beautiful, sun-drenched July afternoon, I had the joy of officiating a very special wedding at Starbank Park in Edinburgh. Nestled between the sea and the city, this lovingly cared-for green space became the perfect setting for a celebration full of heart, creativity and community spirit.
Calum & Gilly chose to marry beneath the park’s big tree … a natural, grounded backdrop that gave the ceremony a sense of calm and connection. They had decorated the space with lanterns hanging from the branches, vibrant chalk drawings on the path, and blooms of fresh flowers, transforming the area into a colourful and welcoming celebration spot.
Because Starbank Park remained open to the public, passers-by were treated to a little unexpected joy as they paused quietly to watch. It felt like the whole park was sharing in the happiness of the day.
The ceremony itself was rich with personal touches. We included a Handfasting ritual, with both mums taking part … a beautiful moment symbolising the joining of two families. And to close, the couple shared a dram from the quaich, Scotland’s traditional cup of friendship. Then, in a lovely touch of hospitality, everyone was offered a wee miniature of whisky to toast the newlyweds.
It was one of those days that reminds me exactly why I love what I do … full of love, laughter, and the unique beauty that comes from a couple making their ceremony their own.
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but it’s not because I’m rude. It’s because I’m setting my intention for the ceremony.
If you are having a fun, upbeat ceremony, why not have your story as a couple told as a poem rather than read as a story?
As a celebrant, I’ve had the privilege of crafting countless wedding ceremonies, each as unique as the couples themselves. One of my favourite ways to add a special touch to a fun, upbeat ceremony is by telling your love story in the form of a poem.
Why Choose a Poem?
Poetry has a rhythm and melody that can capture emotions in ways regular prose often can’t. It’s a powerful medium that can convey joy, humor, and heartfelt sentiment in a memorable and engaging manner. Here are a few reasons why you might consider a poem for your ceremony:
- Uniqueness: Every couple has a unique story, and poetry can highlight those special moments and quirks in a distinctive way.
- Engagement: Poems are often more engaging for your guests, drawing them in with their lyrical flow and expressive language.
- Memorability: A well-crafted poem can leave a lasting impression, making your ceremony truly unforgettable.
Creating Your Poetic Love Story
Crafting a poem involves more than just rhyming words. It’s about capturing the essence of your relationship and telling your story in a way that resonates with you and your guests. Here’s how we can make it happen:
- The Interview: We’ll start with an interview where I’ll learn all about your journey as a couple. This includes how you met, your adventures, the challenges you’ve overcome, and your dreams for the future.
- The Draft: Using the details from our interview, I’ll create a draft of your love story poem. This is where the magic begins as your unique moments are woven into a beautiful narrative.
- The Refinement: We’ll go through the poem together, making sure every word feels right and truly represents your relationship.
- The Performance: On your special day, I’ll deliver your poem with the passion, fun and emotion it deserves, creating a moment that you and your guests will cherish forever.
A Sneak Peek
If you would like to see it in action, why not watch this short video of me delivering a poem at Chris & Joe’s recent wedding?
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While the occasional late arrival due to unforeseen circumstances like traffic or getting lost is understandable, showing up late to a wedding is pure dead cheeky! I know you’ve put a huge amount of effort into planning your big day, and having family & friends there to share the moment is incredibly meaningful. Added to this is the fact that when guests arrive late, they bring an air of panic and stress that clashes with the happy, relaxed atmosphere we’re trying to create.
Some couples have now taken to telling guests the ceremony is starting 15 minutes earlier than it is, while others are letting guest know that once the ceremony starts there will be no entry to the ceremony space. This might seem a bit extreme but your ceremony is such a big part of the day, it needs to be centre stage.
So, if you have a ceremony coming up, please make sure your guests know to arrive at least 30 minutes early. This ensures the ceremony can begin promptly, and everyone can enjoy it without cheeky wee latecomers trying to sneak in!
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David & Thomas say, “Aye Do!”
What Does It Mean to Get Married in 2024?
Introducing a new chapter of love in 2024 means embracing hope, commitment, and the promise of a shared future. Marriage isn’t just a union of two individuals; it’s a celebration of the profound decision to journey through life together.
In a world where chaos often reigns, choosing to say “Aye do” is an act of defiance against uncertainty. It’s a declaration of unwavering hope amidst the unpredictable nature of existence. It’s standing tall, hand in hand, and proclaiming to the world your intention to build something beautiful together.
Your ceremony becomes a sacred moment, a pause in the hustle and bustle of life, where the universe seems to hold its breath as you exchange vows. It’s a time where words carry weight, where promises are made with sincerity, and where hearts beat in sync with anticipation.
In 2024, getting married isn’t just about legalities or traditions; it’s about boldly stepping into the future with someone who sees your flaws and loves you anyway. It’s about creating a bond that withstands the tests of time and strengthens with each passing day.
So, what does it mean to get married in 2024? It means choosing love over fear, hope over despair, and unity over division. It’s a declaration of faith in each other and in the endless possibilities that tomorrow holds.
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Choosing your wedding vows is a big deal. The moment when you speak the words that will transition you from singlehood to marriage, is the moment around which your entire day revolves. It demands time, contemplation, dedication, and careful deliberation. However that doesn’t mean to say they have to be pious or boring! In fact, you are encouraged to be creative with your Vows and make them a wonderful part of your ceremony rather than just a footnote.
Let’s start with what Vows are:
In a nutshell, your Vows are the intention you hold, and the promises you are making to each other for your life together.
Is there only one way to say your Vows?
No! There are many different ways in which you can say your Vows, depending on how comfortable you are with speaking in front of your guests. Here are a few ideas:
PERSONAL VOWS: This is where you write your own vows to each other. Think of them as like a love letter for your future.
Example:
“Lauren, I stand here today in front of the girl of my dreams and the person who I spend the rest of my life. Physically, I will hold you close cherishing the touch of our souls. Emotionally, I promise to be vulnerable open and sharing the depths of my feelings with complete honesty. I promise to be your best friend and partner in crime. I promise to be goofy and make you laugh every single day. With all that I am and all that I have, I pledge to be your player two in this extraordinary adventure.”
REPEAT-AFTER-ME VOWS: This is where I will say a few words and you will repeat them after me (the R is where you would repeat)
Example:
John, please repeat after me (R) Emily, as I take you to be my wife in marriage (R) these are the promises I make to you (R) I promise to be honest and respectful (R) and to always have your back (R)I promise to give this my all (R) and do my best to let down my guard (R) to truly let you in (R) I promise to be fun and funny (R) and to make you laugh and to bring joy (R) I promise to always be respectful honest, and open minded (R) But most of all (R) from this day to the end of our days (R) I promise to love you (R) with all that I have (R) and all that I am.
AYE DO VOWS: This is where I will read a passage and at the end you will say, “Aye Do”. This is perfect if you are extremely nervous about speaking during your ceremony.
Example:
John, as you take Emily to be your wife in marriage, so you promise to always love, honour and respect her? Do you promise to always have fun and be silly with her? Do you promise to create a safe space so that she can be vulnerable? Do you promise to be honest, kind and to listen without taking offence? Do you promise to take the bins out when it’s raining, and to finally decorate the bathroom? But most of all, do you promise to step hand in hand into this mighty adventure and to never forget how lucky you are to have found each other in this life?
Ping Pong Vows: This would be where you would read your vows back and forward between you. This is really beautiful and again, it’s different.
Example: (opposite sex ceremony)
Groom: As we walk hand in hand into this new adventure, I promise to always
cherish you, to support you, and to stand by your side.
Bride: I promise to love you fiercely, to encourage you, and to be your unwavering guide.
Groom: I promise to always be there for you, through thick and thin.
Bride: I promise to stand by your side, no matter what life brings.
Groom: With you, I feel complete, whole, and utterly loved.
Bride: With you, I’ve found my partner, my confidant, my best friend.
Groom: I promise to infuse our days with laughter, and to cherish each moment we share.
Bride: I promise to be your partner in mischief, and make you laugh every day.
Secret Vows: Many of my couples tell me they don’t feel comfortable pouring out their deepest feelings for each-other in front of all their guests. Well, you don’t have to, because why not exchange your ‘Heartfelt’ vows in private? You can do this before the ceremony or after. I think it’s nice if a couple takes 5 minutes alone after the ceremony to stop, breath and celebrate what’s just happened, and this can be a good time to exchange your secret vows. These can be done verbally, or you can write them down in the form of a letter. You don’t need to tell anyone you’re doing this, or I can mention it during the ceremony. “Emily & John will exchange their private promises after the ceremony, but they will now exchange their vows of marriage.” You can even make a wee ritual of it, and so you would each bring a sealed envelope with your`private vows in it. During the ceremony you would swap envelopes to be read later.
Themed Vows: Whether you’re a Harry Potter fan, a Star Wars fanatic or a Swiftie, if your wedding day has a theme, why not write your vows to match?!
Example:
“I stand before you today, not as a Jedi or a Sith, but as your partner in this grand adventure called life. I vow to cherish and honour you, to support and uplift you in all that you do. Just as the Force binds the galaxy together, so too shall my love bind us in unity and strength. I vow to be your co-pilot through the galaxies of life. We will navigate the stars, facing both triumphs and trials with courage and resilience. With every beat of my heart, I pledge to walk beside you, to share in your joys and shoulder your burdens. Through the light and the dark, I will stand by your side, my love for you unwavering and eternal.”
Have Fun with Your Vows!
Yes, it’s absolutely okay to have fun with your vows, In fact, it can bring a whole new angle to your ceremony! Here are some fun ways to do it….
Write each-others Vows!
That’s right, just give each other guide lines about word count and tone and then set to writing each-others surprise Vows! This usually bring a great deal of fun into the ceremony. (If you are having a legal marriage, I will add a passage after you both speak so that everyone knows you are taking vows of marriage.)
Fill the Blank Vows
Before the ceremony starts, leave sheets of paper/ card on guest seats asking them to fill in the blanks. You will then each pick one at random and these become your Vows! You could also have your own Personal Vows and then have these just for fun! (you can get these on Etsy)
Write a Poem!
If you fancy yourself to be the next Rabbie Burns, why not write a poem instead of the usual vows? It’s unique, it can be funny and your guests will love it!
Q&A
- How long should our Vows be?
It’s really up to you, but my advice would be to make them long enough to be meaningful but not War & Peace! If you are writing your own Personal Vows, start by just jotting down the promises you are making and why you have chosen to spend your life with this person. Just keep writing but then go back and start to distill it, so that you are saying what you want to say, without using verbiage (unnecessary words). If you are keeping your Vows a surprise from your partner, just give each other some guidelines about length and tone. This means you won’t have one of you being incredibly funny, and the other being super romantic. - Can we have a mixture of Repeat-after-Me and Aye Do vows?
Yes, you absolutely can! There’s no right or wrong way to say your vows. The most important thing is that they are authentic and heartfelt. - Do we need to use any specific wording or phrases?
No, here in Scotland we don’t have ‘Statutory & Declaratory’ words. However, we do need to make it clear that it is a ceremony of marriage, but if the vows you have written don’t make it clear they are vows of marriage, I will add on a wee bit after you have spoken. - When should we start writing our Vows?
Sooner rather than later! The most important thing is not to leave them until the last minute. If you do this you’re taking a chance on them being superficial. Instead, in the months leading up to your ceremony, start jotting down your thoughts and feelings about your vows. What are you promising to your partner for your future together? What makes them special? Why are you choosing to spend the rest of your life with this person? What are your hopes and dreams for your future together? Once you’ve done this, then go back to it again and again and start to shape them. Practice saying them out loud to see if they sound genuine. - Who goes first in saying their Vows?
In traditional wedding ceremonies the Groom went first, but in 2024 it’s completely up to you! You can even have fun with it and play a game of Rock, Paper, Scissors to see who will go first or ask your guests to vote!
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