Resting Bitchy Face

I can often come across as aloof before a ceremony. I stand away on own, I don’t like to engage in chit-chat, I have resting bitchy face but it’s not because I’m rude. It’s because I’m setting my intention for the ceremony.

Before I step up to join a couple and their guests, I need to take time to deep dive into my thoughts. I think about all the conversations I’ve had with the couple, the beautiful journey they’ve shared, the words I’ve crafted, the atmosphere they want to create, and everything they’ve entrusted me to bring to the space. I’m always banging on to couples about being fully present, and In these quiet moments before a ceremony, I remind myself that being fully present is the greatest gift AYE can give the couple

When I arrive at a venue, other vendors often want to discuss practical details of the ceremony and while those are super important, if I let myself be distracted it can pull me off centre, and so I make sure I take time to ground and centre myself. In just a short while, I’ll be holding space for this couple and all their guests, and to do that effectively, I need to drop into a quiet place and be fully present. “In stillness, magic happens.”

Being a ceremonialist is about so much more than just making people laugh or reading words from a script. It’s about really connecting with the couple and their story, understanding the depth of their journey, and creating a space where their love can be honoured and celebrated.

It’s about creating magic

So, if you see me like this before a ceremony, please know I’m not being a cow! I’m simply getting in the zone to create a meaningful, unforgettable moment for two people about to start a new chapter together